Pamela Anderson & Tommy Lee’s Relationship Timeline: Their Wedding, Scandals, Divorces & Reunions

By:
January 18, 2024 11:26AM EST
Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee
Shutterstock

Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee were one of the most iconic couples of the 90s. Though their romance didn’t last, their relationship lives on in photos, here.

Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee might not have been forever, but they were one of the 90s most outrageous couples when they were. The Motley Crue drummer began dating the bombshell in Feb. 1995 and became her first of now-six husbands just four days later.

Not long after, the couple welcomed son Brandon Thomas, born June 5, 1996. Their youngest Dylan Jagger arrived as a late Christmas gift the next year, born December 29, 1997. During their days, there were masters of PDA, always locking lips on the red carpet, but behind the scenes, Tommy was violent. Pam filed for divorce for the first time in Nov. 1996, but the filing was later withdrawn.

In Feb. 1998, he was arrested for domestic abuse and went on to serve six months in jail. Pam filed for divorced days later, and after that, they bitterly fought each other for the boys’ custody. The duo eventually settled on a 50/50 arrangement in Oct. 2002.

While things were bitter between the exes at first, they later reconnected as friends with benefits. During the mid-2000s they were often seen out together, and Pam even admitted to regularly hooking up with her ex in a 2007 interview.

While the relationship was tumultuous, they shared some sweet moments. Ready for more of Pam and Tommy? Learn everything about their relationship in our photo timelines, right here.

1 of 22

Pamela Anderson & Tommy Lee Marry in Mexico

Pamela Anderson & Tommy Lee Marry in Mexico
Shutterstock

Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee were head-over-heels for one-another the moment they met on New Year’s Eve 1995. Tommy remembered the night in his band Motley Crue’s memoir The Dirt.

After she sent him a shot of Goldschläger from across an LA bar, he was instantly drawn to the model. “She was wearing all white, her hair was the most perfect shade of blond I had ever seen,” he wrote. “Her teeth practically glowed through her lips when she laughed, and she stood out so radiantly from everyone around her that it seemed like a beam of black light was shining on her from above.”

They talked on the phone for a while after that, but they wouldn’t have their first date until a Cancun vacation around Valentine’s Day. They were married in Mexico on Feb. 18, 1995.

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
2 of 22

Pam & Tommy In Malibu in 1995

Pam & Tommy In Malibu in 1995
Keith Butler/Shutterstock

Newlywed Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee just couldn’t seem to get enough of each other at first. After their wedding, they starting shacking up at his Malibu beach house.

She was totally carefree while fetching breakfast with her boo in the posh coastal enclave in 1995. For the outing, Pam donned a denim button-up and nothing else. Tommy looked gleeful, walking beside her in a faux-Harley Davidson tee shirt.

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
3 of 22

Pam & Tommy in a Hot Air Balloon

Pam & Tommy in a Hot Air Balloon
Clive Postlethwaite/Shutterstock

Going up! Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee cuddled close while enjoying a hot air balloon ride sponsored by Virgin in 1995.

The newlyweds finally got to enjoy a honeymoon during the summer of 1995. During their five-day houseboat trip to Nevada’s Lake Mead they ended up filming what would later be turned into an unauthorized sex tape. “We weren’t trying to make a porno, just to document our vacation,” Tommy would tell Esquire in 2022.

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
4 of 22

Pam & Tommy at the 1995 Cannes Film Festival

Pam & Tommy at the 1995 Cannes Film Festival
Alan Davidson/Shutterstock

Tommy Lee was at Pamela Anderson’s side for the 1995 Cannes Film Festival, where her film Barb Wire debuted. She was classic in a shiny black dress and tousled blonde waves during a May 20 photocall for the action film.

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
5 of 22

Pam & Tommy Promote ‘Barb Wire’

Pam & Tommy Promote ‘Barb Wire’
Shutterstock

All eyes were on Pamela Anderson when she arrived for the Cannes Film Festival screening of her film Barb Wire in full costume. She was irresistable in the plunging leather bustier, long gloves, and dark shades.

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
6 of 22

Pam & Tommy at the Empire State Building

Pam & Tommy at the Empire State Building
Kenneth Ferguson/Shutterstock

Pam and Tommy’s connection was electric. “Tommy and I started out having a very intense, fun, crazy relationship because we were two kids,” Pam said in 1998. “We were madly in love. It wasn’t like drugs or alcohol or anything like that. We were both just really passionate about life.”

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
7 of 22

Pamela Anderson & Tommy Lee in London

Pamela Anderson & Tommy Lee in London
Shutterstock

Happy holidays! Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee got dolled up like the Clauses for this Christmas 1995 photo. They were expecting their first son, Brandon, at the time.

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
8 of 22

Pamela Anderson & Tommy Lee in 1995

Pamela Anderson & Tommy Lee in 1995
Shutterstock

Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee were all about fun. They lived it up during a 1995 trip to London, during which time they stopped by Buckingham Palace.

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
9 of 22

Pam & Tommy in Bed

Pam & Tommy in Bed
Shutterstock

Pam and Tommy cuddled up in a posh London hotel room during their 1995 vacation across the pond. In Oct. of that year, the couple’s house was robbed and a safe was stolen. Among the items inside? Their private honeymoon tape.

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
10 of 22

Pam & Tommy at the 1996 AMAs

Pam & Tommy at the 1996 AMAs
BEI/Shutterstock

Tommy Lee and Pamela Anderson looked like total rock stars during the 1996 American Music Awards. He donned a blue leather shirt unbuttoned low while she was an icon in a shimmering pearl dress and platforms. You could barely see her baby bump at the time. Son Brandon was born that May. Their second son Dylan arrived the next year.

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
11 of 22

Pam & Tommy at the 1999 World Music Awards

Pam & Tommy at the 1999 World Music Awards
Lionel Cironneau/AP/Shutterstock

Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee’s relationship took a dark turn, amid the rocker’s ongoing struggle with addiction. He was arrested on Feb. 24, 1998, after kicking Pam while she was holding their infant son. The rocker later plead no contest to domestic assault charges and served six months behind bars.

Though she filed for divorce days after the incident, Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee were together again during the 1999 World Music Awards in Monaco in May of that year. She dazzled in baby blue while he went with leather overalls, sans shirt. On stage, the no-longer-exes shared a kiss.

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
12 of 22

Pam & Tommy in Monte Carlo

Pam & Tommy in Monte Carlo
Nikos Vinieratos/Shutterstock

Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee visited Monte Carlo together, ahead of the 1999 World Music Awards. They definitely looked like a couple.

Pamela would talk about their domestic dispute in her 2023 memoir Love, Pamela. She wrote, “The divorce from Tommy was the hardest, lowest, most difficult point of my life. I was crushed. I still couldn’t believe that the person I loved the most was capable of what had happened that night. We were both devastated, but I had to protect my babies.”

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
13 of 22

Pam & Tommy at the 1999 MTV VMAs

Pam & Tommy at the 1999 MTV VMAs
Suzanne Plunkett/AP/Shutterstock

Despite Tommy’s legal woes, the pair would have trouble staying apart. In Sep. 1999, Pam and Tommy attended the MTV Video Music Awards together. In what is probably one of their most memorable appearances, he rocked a trench coat and she donned a feathered Ivy Supersonic hat, lace corset, and embellished pants.

Pam swore that Tommy was learning to manage his anger in a Dec. 1998 interview with Jane magazine. “It’s not all roses or anything, because there’s a lot of pain that Tommy and I need to resolve,” she wrote. “But seeing my two little boys so happy and playing with their daddy, it’s just beautiful to have our family back together.”

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
14 of 22

Pam & Tommy at Logan Airport

Pam & Tommy at Logan Airport
Boston Herald/Shutterstock

Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee walked through Boston’s Logan airport hand-in-hand in 1999. She donned a tied-up tee shirt, white pants and flip flops while he rocked baggy jeans and a courdoroy shirt.

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
15 of 22

Pam & Tommy at a PETA Party

Pam & Tommy at a PETA Party
Bei/Shutterstock

Tommy Lee and Pamela Anderson Lee looked like quite the pair during PETA’s Party of the Century and Humanitarian Awards on September 18, 1999 in Los Angeles. She looked like Tinkerbell in her strapless green gown.

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
16 of 22

Pam & Tommy at the 2000 American Music Awards

Pam & Tommy at the 2000 American Music Awards
Michael Caulfieild/AP/Shutterstock

Pamela Anderson Lee and Tommy Lee looked happy during the 2000 American Music Awards on Jan. 17, but by that summer the relationship would run its course once more.

After their breakup, Pam started seeing Swedish model Marcus Schenkenberg, who she was with until 2001. Tommy went on to romance Prince’s dancer ex-wife Mayte Garcia from 2002 to 2003.

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
17 of 22

Pam & Tommy in 2001

Pam & Tommy in 2001
Hahn Lionel/ABACA/Shutterstock

Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee attended an event for TV Cares together on Apr. 2, 2001. She was super sultry in a latex dress while he rocked a red shirt, black jacket, and spiky hair. Were they back on? Who could say.

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
18 of 22

Pam & Tommy at the Premiere of ‘Scary Movie 3’

Pam & Tommy at the Premiere of ‘Scary Movie 3’
Stewart Cook/Shutterstock

Pamela Anderson took ex-husband Tommy Lee as her date to the premiere of Scary Movie 3 in Oct. 2003. Both stars beamed while keeping close together on the red carpet.

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
19 of 22

Pam & Tommy in2004

Pam & Tommy in2004
Alex Berliner/BEI/Shutterstock

Tommy Lee and Pamela Anderson were together for Rodeo Drive’s Walk of Style Awards on Mar. 28, 2004. He looked pretty punky while she rocked a white tank and tight blue jeans.

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
20 of 22

Pam & Tommy in 2005

Pam & Tommy in 2005
Kazden/Shutterstock

Tommy Lee and Pamela Anderson were hand-in-hand during the launch party for LA’s Rokbar in Jun. 2005. Months before in Jan., the pair were spotted kissing. Then in May, they packed on the PDA during son Dylan’s baseball game.

Tommy explained the reunion to People at the time, telling the magazine, “The boys miss Pam and me together. When we’re together, they’re so happy. At the end of the day, that’s truly what my heart wants. I want us all to be together.”

By July, Pam was telling a different story. Thoroughly dismissing rumors she was engaged to he ex, she took to her personal website to clarify things. “I am not engaged to Tommy Lee,” she wrote. “We are friendly, we’re family … but that is not the truth. I am not getting married … Period.”

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
21 of 22

Pam & Tommy in 2007

Pam & Tommy in 2007
Kevork Djansezian/AP/Shutterstock

It seems like the chemistry never totally faded between Pamela Anderson and ex-husband Tommy Lee. The former couple got very close during the 2007 MTV Video Music Awards at the Palms Hotel and Casino, in Las Vegas on Sep. 9.

The couple gave it another shot in 2008, as Tommy told Rolling Stone in June of that year. “We’ve only given it a try 800 times — 801, here we go,” he said. “Pamela and the kids have moved in with me. It’s awesome. It’s definitely working.” Things were over for the couple by the spring of 2009, but the couple was spotting sharing one last kiss in Las Vegas before the end.

Still, the pair’s connection would last. Pam admitted how much she cared about Tommy in an August 2015 interview with People. “There was Tommy and then there was nobody else,” she said. “He was the love of my life.”

The star went on, “There’s a connection there that will always be. We’re good friends, we’re getting better at co-parenting our kids. He’s such a supporter of mine and I’m really happy we’re on such great terms.” She echoed that message in her 2023 memoir, Love, Pamela, calling their marriage the only time she was “ever truly in love.”

January 18, 2023, 1:48PM
22 of 22

Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee: Photos

Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee: Photos
Shutterstock
January 18, 2024, 11:25AM